Introspection on ourselves

Could you be a perfectionist or just like things the way they are? Change for me is like the shampoo bottle moving a few inches to the left when it should be in its rightful place. Feel aggrieved and constantly moving it back? Me too! Your favourite packet of crisps has a new logo; there was nothing wrong with the old one, right? You get a new job and can't help constantly comparing it to how easy your old one was. Sound all too familiar?

Change is a pain in the.....

Change, to me, is when something moves or shifts to something you are not used to. Change occurs everywhere and in every situation a fair few times in our lives in every aspect. It's metaphorically and sometimes logistically annoying and painful. Would I be good enough if change occurred? What other surprises lay in store? But will it eventually empower me to to better myself in ways I didn't think I could?

A theory about why things change

If you think about life as a young child your life constantly changed. You grew, your shoes were constantly too small, people came in and out of your life ( your parents or guardians chose this) and your routine changed.

If you accept that we evolved from our primate ancestors, we adapted and overcame the problems they faced to become a race that still survives now. Would we have done that without change?

So if it's a survival of the fittest you'd think that life would be perfect for us as we had already adapted right? But of course everyday we are still adapting as our environment and stimuli changes. It only feels like yesterday I still used my house phone to call my friends!

Why don't we like change and how to accept it

Easy answer - we want an easy life! Why waste our time getting used to something when we could just do or experience things the way we did before. I know when things change I can focus on the negative and focus on what is so pointless about the change. I can spend all of my energy conjuring up all of the cons as and when they pop up.

Even if a change is for the good eventually it's painful in the short term  and we need time to adjust.

Good news is afoot as we are humans and we can't adapt to change in one day. This is particularly true for those grieving as a result of a death of a loved one. There are all the stages to go through and trying to skip ahead or ignore them will just make it harder. I like to think of going through changes as going through the necessary steps until you can finally accept it.

So I say;

Think of reasons why the change may help ( not necessarily every situation I know)

Don't beat yourself up when you have had a bad day and struggle with it

Offer helpful feedback and not just because you don't like it (tempting for me). Try to think of why it may not make people's lives easier

Write off bad choices as lessons learnt

Know that if there wasn't change there wouldn't be a future!

We can only move forward, even if we think we are moving back, as we know in future to do something differently to get a result or a better result. Our school science experiments spring to mind here. We may not like it but we are doing it.

What do you think about change? Are you an embracer? Or avoider?


So here are are my initial views on ‘Pillow Talk’ – a lipstick I recently purchased from the Charlotte Tilbury counter in Selfridges, London.

First Impressions of Pillow Talk 

So I had tried it on in store and was happy to note that it is a very wearable colour. There seems to be so much out there now that isn’t! Out of all of the colours I tried, this appeared to be the nicest one on me. It is a muted pink and the rose gold packaging is so pretty.

On The Lips – Pillow Talk

It is a matte revolution lipstick so is supposed to make lips look fuller without the need for lots of extra steps i.e. line with lipliner etc. The first thing I was pleased to note was that it wasn’t as matte as some can be. Matte Mac lipsticks I find can be very drying on the lips. This one was far from drying and didn’t feel uncomfortable at all.  I would say it wore well for around 6 hours but fades well and evenly. My lips did not feel like they need a scrub with lip scrub which is usually the case after wearing matte lipstick.

I feel was very muted and more brown-pink on my skintone; which is very fair. The lightest in any foundation.

Claims – Pillow Talk

It contains papaya and orchid which I believe gives it that soft texture. It also contains 3D glowing pigments. I can’t say I noticed this but I will continue to try this on and see how it fares over time. The lipstick is £24.00 which is standard for high-end lipsticks. They also threw in some CT samples which was nice of them! The staff are also willing to wipe the lipsticks for you to try and recommend products. Hoping to grab one of the eye palettes next.

Is slightly easier to put on as it has the angled bullet. Mine tend to get a slant to them eventually so I think this being the case does make it easier to get in to the corner of my lips.

What do you think?

Before Application

Before Application

On the Lips

On the Lips